a little tooooo accurate lol
essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

Erik & I really love personality tests. We spend quite a lot of time on them but they help us understand ourselves and each other better.

A bit ago, we touched on Love Languages but today I want to talk about the Enneagram Test.

Have you taken it yet?

I took three different ones. This one, this one, & this one. These are all free but here is the official test for $12 which I actually might take since it will be the most exact.

I took three tests to see if my personality ranked true among all three & for the most part it did. I’ll get into my 3 types in a bit but one thing I found interesting is that my 3rd type remained the same and 1 & 2 ranged between two different ones. More in a sec!

To really simplify things, the enneagram test is a personality test that has nine different types, labelled by numbers. The following types are: 1 (Reformer); 2 (Helper); 3 (Achiever); 4 (Individualist); 5 (Investigator); 6 (Loyalist); 7 (Enthusiast); 8 (Challenger); 9 (Peacemaker)

Outside advice I was given about the free tests is that it isn’t entirely accurate. The paid version is the most accurate & worth the money but the best way to pin down your personality is by taking the test and then really reading the types & assessing them with an honest mind.

My personality can be difficult… both in the “hard to put a finger on” but also in the not so flattering “difficult” way.

I’ve invested a lot of time in learning about it because, over the years, I found I didn’t know how to deal with it.

It leads me to both success and trouble & sometimes I can’t differentiate the path. Does that even make sense?

Here are my enneagram results:

essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

I’m a mix between type 8 & type 3, with type 1 always coming third. Types I do not score at all are 2; 7; & 9. If wings are involved, I’m an 8w7 & 3w4.

I took the test 3 times & twice, I scored 8 as my primary. After reading about it, it’s safe to say I’m an 8. I do very much have traits of a 3 but the 8 was the one that rang home to me.


To sum it up, & quote the test results: “we take charge because we don’t want to be controlled.” Challengers CRAVE control. We are extremely intense, have powerful instincts & physical appetites, are a bit domineering, VERY direct {almost to a fault}, and crave independence. We don’t work well for other people or teams & thrive on our own.

This all rings a little close to home here. I am a huge, huuuuuuge control freak & it’s both my biggest strength and my biggest weakness. When things are out of my control, that’s when I really start to feel chaos sink in and disaster always ensues.

With that, I’m also very… & at times too… direct. I am extremely upfront & blunt. There’s no sugar coating fluff and sometimes it even makes blogging a challenge.

With work, I THRIVE by working alone. I need {& crave} solitude. I don’t do well in teams. To me, it’s giving up control, which is something that’s so hard for me. Working at an office & especially open layouts gives me major anxiety. It was something I was worried about moving in with Erik too. Now that I work from home, if I’m not too careful, I will completely isolate myself from others.

A question on this test that stood out to me was Sometimes I’m too critical of others but I am much harder on myself than I am to others. That one was a hard yes to me & probably one of my biggest faults. I am extremely {EXTREMELY} hard on myself and it results me being too critical on others. The pressure I put on myself is a lot and I assume everyone puts the same pressure on theirselves that I do. One thing I’ll say is that it’s not to be rude, it’s just how I perceive the world & I realize very quickly it’s not the case.

essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

NOW- deep down we are very vulnerable & sensitive… but very, very few people see that side as it’s a side we are very protective over and kind of even fear. THAT SAID- if you betray us & our trust {whether it’s being lied to, betrayed, gossiped about, insulted, etc}, we are done. But to those we love & that love us, we are generous to a fault & insanely loyal. This checks out on alllllll accounts. The intimate circle I have, I love dearly & generously & they see the good, the bad, the ugly. Those who have betrayed? Intolerable. It doesn’t matter who they were or how close we were – it’s very easy for me to trim the fat, let them go & never look back. I just won’t tell anyone the hurt it causes me or how I feel.

Another thing is the strong physical appetites. Mine is out of control… so much so, I spent years of my life in a career of food & wine and if we hang out in person, many of what we do is based around food & wine. My hunger and thirst is insatiable and it’s something I find insane pleasure in. It’s not fuel to me, it’s one of the biggest gifts & pleasures of life. This is fun, very fun… but can & has led to trouble.

One interesting note about 8’s is that many females don’t type as eights. To be completely blunt {I can’t help it lol}, making friends, especially here in San Francisco, is a challenge of mine & I find it’s because my personality. Interestingly enough, Dallas, New York, & Los Angeles were the easiest cities for me to make girlfriends in & to this day, that’s where many of them live {with the exception of my girl Colette which honestly thank G for her}. To be completely honest, I never felt like I “fit in” with or belong in San Francisco & I don’t think I ever will.

I consider myself an eight, because there was nothing I don’t relate to, even the really ugly of it: My temper isn’t the greatest, I have plenty of meltdowns, I’m not a stranger to rage, the pressure I have on myself is constantly crushing me, I am an awful employee, I give unsolicited advice all the damn time, I can’t handle “slack jobs” or laziness {i literally cannot handle laziness, it’s my least fav trait and would get me in trouble all the time in the workplace} , I don’t give second chances & can get vengeful, and I hide all my emotions & don’t let people know how I really feel. Every single one of these traits have cost me relationships and friendships.

Let’s touch on three- this was my second most prevalent type.

The Achiever
essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

Cliff notes on the Type 3 Achiever: they are very focused on success, respect, & admiration from others. Validation is key & I’d actually go as far to peg many influencers as Type 3 since social media & numbers can really satiate that need. Type 3’s are incredibly hard working, competitive, hyper-focused on their end goals, highly confident & driven, charismatic, and extroverted. Being seen as a “loser” is a 3’s biggest fear & success is what drives them.

I think my Type 8 really shows here because of the pressure I put on myself. I am extremely focused on my success & can get frustrated on where I am vs where I want to be. That said, my end game goal is very long term & I chip away at it everyday. I am also extremely competitive, compare myself to others constantly {instagram does NOT help}, and even with board games, I must win, I get addicted to that feeling. Losing is a fear of mine & not finding success is something that really scares me. I will do whatever it takes to win as I refuse to lose. Another thing I relate to is how image driven they are… but again, I tie that to the pressure I put on myself in every aspect of my life.

Things I don’t relate to as a three: validation isn’t huge to me & I am a huge introvert. I believe both of these go hand in hand. I get energy from solitude & validation is something that drains me as it’s outside energy from other people. I’d rather a small circle of people who believe in me than chase the opinions, approvals, & follows of others. I work hard every day but a lot of it is “behind the scenes” and not “on camera” for others to view if that makes sense. Threes also tend to be the life of the party, & I’m one who will decline the invitation to the party so I can read a book at home with my cat. Threes are generally warm, energetic, engaging people, & I am on the colder, more aloof side.

essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

Lastly, let’s touch on type 1. Every time I take the test, I always get this as my third type.

The Reformer

cliff notes on type 1’s: Reformers are perfectionists, reasonable, people fixated on improvement. They have strong moral compasses, control on their “bad moods”, & can detach all emotions to find improvement. They have high principles, and make great leaders. Ones also are very serious, extremely organized, committed, & workaholics. It’s not about the time spent working, but making sure it’s a job well done. They rarely show emotion, as they find it a weakness. They also aren’t spontaneous but they have so many interests & talents that they never run out of things to do.

I can see how this weaves in with my personality. I am an insane perfectionist, but again, the pressure I have on myself goes hand in hand with that. I’m constantly looking for things to improve on. If things aren’t working for me, I can easily switch it up and improve, not dwell, without attaching emotions to it.

Things I don’t relate to: control on my “bad” moods & the organizational aspect. It’s something I am proactively working on improving with my journals {which actually sounds like a one typed out! ha}. I’m also not the most reasonable person, not level headed, & very intense where ones have all that on lock. As far as leadership, I’m much better behind the scenes as a “creative director” than as a “leader”.

essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

ERIK is a hardcore type 1. In fact reading this was like reading a character description of Erik. It’s him to a T.

Interestingly enough, his second two types are type 8 & type 3. Maybe that’s why we are so compatible? He really understands me in all my glory and I, him. If I’m having a meltdown, he knows it has nothing to do with him & everything to do with me. He works hard, and a lot, and very long hours, but I don’t take it personal. I’ll never get mad at him for being at the office until late or traveling for days or in some cases weeks and I can easily keep myself busy & heads down on work. He also helps me see everything I do from a very practical eye and helps me constantly to improve my blog, future, work, & self. I also never take it personal when he tells me I need to change something because it will always be something that is an improvement & will lead to success.

VERY interesting to note, is that my best friend scored a 2. I didn’t score this type at all and it’s interesting how well we work in synergy with each other. We come to each other for advice constantly because I think we have such different traits & outlooks.

SO. We got a little personal here but it’s fun to share and I LOVE reading about other’s personality types.

Have you taken the enneagram test? What’s your type?? Any other 8’s in the house? let’s be friends!! 🙂


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essellesse talks the enneagram test // san francisco lifestyle blogger shannon silver is a type 8: the challenger with type 3: achiever & type 1: Reformer

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  1. 2.6.20
    Maria Koss said:

    That sounds like an interesting test!

  2. 2.6.20

    I’m a 2 with balanced wings! Every description I read about it totally fits me, and types 1 and 3 sometimes fit me, which is why I think my wings are balanced. It’s a cool test, but I think I like Meyers Briggs better – I really identify with my INFJ type.

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  3. 2.6.20
    Fash-n-Curious said:

    Ive never heard of this test. Sounds intriguing